Baby detox: hard knocks for babies

Has anyone else noticed the trend of taking away everything babies enjoy?

Babies have obviously done something wrong, and need to be punished. ???

Your baby probably loves (or loved, as it may be) being rocked to sleep, sleeping in your arms, nursing to sleep, being swaddled, his pacifier, and being seen about when she cries. According to most books and pediatricians, these are all the wrong things to do at some point, and will need to cease. Some suggest weaning, while others say stop them cold turkey… or else.

Essentially, you need to send your baby into detox from all his creature comforts. The world is tough, kid, get used to it.

I understand the reasoning behind working away from most of these methods/soothers, but I don’t see anything wrong with taking the opportunity, while my baby is indeed a baby, to “spoil” him a little. He’s not an addict, and none of the things I listed will kill him, so why not indulge him a little; after all, he’s not even 5 months old! He probably still has nightmares about leaving his jacuzzi-style oven, where he fed 24/7 and was continuously rocked. Give the kid a break!

Why not hit a happy, weaning-medium? Rock him until he’s almost asleep. Only hold him while he sleeps occasionally. Reserve swaddling and pacifiers for extremely fussy times, and set a time limit for seeing about her when she cries. I doubt the people giving the advice are the same people who have to listen to your baby cry when you rip off the band-aid.

Yes, I want to raise an independent, self-soother, but I don’t expect someone who still poops his pants to have figured it all out yet. We’ll get there, but, today, I’m going to love on my baby however much I want.

3 Comments on “Baby detox: hard knocks for babies”

  1. caringdoula says:

    You sound like an AP parent here! Baby’s have needs, not wants, so it is impossible to “spoil” a baby. Great post, thanks for this 🙂

  2. When my kids were babies, I needed to hold them and hug them as much as they needed me to do that. If anything, I believe it created a stronger bond between mother and child.

    The best advice I ever got was from my family doctor (a father of 4 kids), who said “You don’t spoil a child by holding them and loving on them. You spoil them as they get older by giving in when you know you shouldn’t, by giving or buying them things you know aren’t good for them so they will stop fussing, and by letting them do things because it’s less trouble for you. He also told me punishment is sometimes harder on the parent than on the child because you have to stick with whatever you set forth… even when it’s inconvenient or bothersome for you.

    I tried to follow his advice for child rearing, and I have raised two wonderful, self-sufficient, caring children. And although they are now grown with their own children… I STILL hold them and give them hugs and kisses every chance I get!!

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